Surely you have had cases when you inadvertently insulted your girlfriend. Unfortunately, there is no panacea. Each situation is unique and requires an in-depth analysis of specific actions. Therefore, today, we will try to analyze the most popular options.
Causes of Conflicts and Ways to Resolve Them
Let’s find out the most common reasons for conflicts in relationships.
1. You were wrong, and you realize it
Ideally, you have to be a gentleman, that is, keep yourself in control, and even more so not be mad at Russian brides, regardless of the situation. However, if this happened, you should sincerely admit your guilt and apologize to the girl. You need to explain your motives, express your understanding that it was unpleasant for her, and calmly say, “I’m sorry.” Don’t be humiliated or try to earn forgiveness. Your task is to apologize sincerely while maintaining your dignity.
2. The girl is offended by you, and you don’t even know about it
Resentment of this kind is one of the means of controlling a weak-willed man. That is, you are right in any situation, but she makes you guilty without explaining the reasons. In this case, you should not apologize. There are three ways to get out of this situation:
- Stop communicating and delete her from your life.
- Explain her manipulations by a logical method and show she is wrong.
- Do not contact her until she admits her guilt.
The first option is objectively the best, albeit the most difficult in terms of decision-making and volitional effort. Understand that if a girl tries to manipulate you, she does not appreciate or respect you, let alone love.
The second is the rarest, but if you are good at persuasion, negotiation skills, and, preferably, logical postulates, or, at least, social psychology, you will be able to sort out the situation.
Ghosting with full awareness of your righteousness works less efficiently. Not every woman is ready to admit she is wrong. However, if this does not help, and she does not apologize, return to the first paragraph, where it is written that with such behavior, the girl understands that she does not need you.
3. There is a misunderstanding between you
In this case, you need to let both yourself and the girl cool down because talking with urgency will only harm your relationship. Calmly explain your vision of the situation, and then offer a solution that would satisfy both of you.
4. Quarrel because of revenge
This situation forms a closed cycle of aggression that can only be resolved by calm conversation. You need to explain calmly to the girl that it hurt you that she did this. If her behavior has crossed the line of your understanding, leave her. Realize what is acceptable to you and what is not because a woman behaves with you exactly as you allow her.
Some General Tips
Instead of constantly saying “sorry,” you need to work on yourself and remove the part that hurts your chosen one in your attitude towards her. When reconciling, focus on the girlfriend’s positive qualities.
Marc
Marc is a self-confessed nerd. Ever since seeing Star Wars for the first time around 1979 he’s been an unapologetic fan of the Wars and still believes, with Clone Wars and now Underworld, we are yet to see the best Star Wars. He’s a dad of two who now doesn’t have the time (or money) to collect the amount of toys, comics, movies and books he once did, much to the relief of his long-suffering wife. In the real world he’s a graphic designer. He started Following the Nerd because he was tired of searching a million sites every day for all the best news that he loves and decided to create one place where you can go to get the whole lot. Secretly he longs to be sitting in the cockpit of his YT-1300 Corellian Transport ship with his co-pilot Chewie, roaming the universe, waiting for his next big adventure, but feels just at home watching cartoons with his kids….
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